Today I just want to share a simple little thing I do to remind myself all day that I think my husband is awesome!
This all came about rather innocently. I didn’t intentionally create this little exercise so that I could remind myself of how much I love Matt. It just happened, and then I realized how cool it was. It’s profound…are you ready?!
I set one of my computer passwords (one that I use frequently) to say something great about Matt. I was feeling giddy one day, and I needed to set a new password…and so just like I was in junior high writing “I LOVE MATT” on the side of my notebook between classes, I set my password to say it.
(“I LOVE MATT” isn’t the password, by the way. What, do you think I’d just tell all of you one of my passwords?)
(Or maybe it IS the password and I’m just telling you it isn’t just to throw you off.)
(Wow, I just forever keep you hopping, don’t I?)
But don’t you remember those feelings you felt back when you and your husband were dating and you couldn’t stop thinking about him and you wanted to carve your initials together into a tree? And tell all your friends about how great he was? And write his name on stuff?
Somehow life takes over and reality sets in and we as a couple become comfortable and not so giddy anymore. That’s mostly okay. We don’t really have time to sit around and sigh and daydream.
But having my password set to remind me all day long that I LOVE MATT (or something else, or not), has been so super neat. Like, totally. (That would be me reverting back to junior high lingo.)
Typing in the words reminds me several times a day of how much I love my husband. And in the middle of a very busy life full of activity and just…busyness…those reminders are a valuable treasure.
So, just a suggestion: Set up a password or two to say something great about your relationship with your husband. You’ll appreciate the loving reminders!
LAURA AND MATT FOREVER XOXOXO
melinda mccormick says
I love it! Well I really love Kevin but that is a GREAT idea!:) Thanks Laura.
sally says
That is a great idea. Although, maybe since we didn’t start dating til I was 25 and he was 30, I never wrote his name all over anything. Well, that is, until we were engaged, and then I had to write out our names together! =)
DorthyM says
I love this idea! It’s so awesome. Such a simple thing and yet it says so much.
Elizabeth says
I love it! My password has been something special between my husband and me since we met 13 years ago… I just change the numbers now and then. When Jason’s trying to get on my computer for something {which is passworded to keep my baby-sitter offline and busy with my kids}, he always asks me what the password is again. I giggle like a schoolgirl when I remind him! :o)
Becky says
I love your idea! I think I’ll try that! Something I do: my husband and I are both pretty quiet and not really big on public-displays-of-affection, mainly because we don’t get out alot together. Anyway, I like to write little “love letters” on his Facebook page. I am careful not to write anything that would be embarassing to him, me or our children, but something like “I’ve missed you today”, “Thanks for being such a great husband” or “Let’s plan a date night soon”.
Dayle says
Love the idea.
Heidi K says
I did the same thing! It is such a great reminder of how much I love my husband. It’s also helpful in remembering the password more easily.
B says
I feel giddy right now, because husband and I have been married for a little over 4 years, I have been taking birth control for 3 months, and before that I had a birth control “implant” in my arm. Well, despite this, last night I found out that I am pregnant. Its quite the shocker because I didn’t think we were having any more kids… Like, at all. But surprise!!! Here’s another. Lol.
Christina says
Thank you for this idea. You are right about how life has changed since we first met. We are so caught up in our busy day to day that things can feel stale. This is an easy way to help us remember the time when we had butterflies, how it all began :) Start with the little things :)
Jolene says
You’re right…life gets sooo busy! Such a great and cute idea, so simple yet so meaningful too!
holly says
LOVE your marriage advice. Would love to read more too!
Lois says
So, if your husband needs your password, he gets to type in “I love Matt” (or whatever) and that probably makes him feel a bit foolish (in a giddy sort of way!) You two love birds…… Thanks for sharing your little secrets. My husband and I have been married 18 years and our “at home” terms of indearments make our offspring gag. We must be doing something right! They at least know their parents love each other, and that is the best thing you can do for your kids.
Mary says
What a great idea! I like to use special (known only to me) Scripture references as passwords. And then I change them from time to time when new verses or passages or Bible stories take on some deep meaning for me.
LadyChadwick says
Thanks! This has perfect timing, I need to change one of my passwords now.
Kelli says
My husband has been using a similar password ever since we started dating 6 years ago . . .lol . . . Maybe that’s because we were in high school when we started dating. :) It makes me feel very loved every time I see him entering it and I hope he never changes it!
Ann MacIntosh says
I do the same thing! Great minds think alike, I guess.
Jiller says
YOur idea is wonderful Laura. When we marry we say those words “for better for worse, in sickness and in health” with such stars in our eyes and have no idea what that really means. My husband of 33 years has now lost his ability to make a living, to serve others and to be the head of his home and it breaks my heart. Ladies, love your husbands with a passion that honors the LORD no matter what! I am blessed to serve my precious husband even though he cant be the husband he wants to be anymore. Time is precious and it can be taken away in a second so live a life that causes you to have no regrets.
Love your blog Laura, thank you.
Sharon says
Very Cute idea. I have also used a loving phrase as a message to my real man. You know the scrolling screen savers? Write something lovey on there to your spouse. They’ll love it. And probably roll their eyes… but they still love it.
Tina says
At church the other day we were discussing creating something special that would remind us of our husbands, thus reminding us to pray for him. I don’t think we realize how much prayer our husbands need. Sometimes we’re the only one praying for him, and God has set them in such an important place in the family to bear so much on those broad shoulders. What would we do without our guys?
gen@scarletacres says
I have been enjoying your ‘Help Meet’ series and, of all of your posts, this is far and away my favorite. I completely relate to those early, giddy days of effervescent affection. It is a beautiful idea to set a password to remind myself of the one I love and those early feelings, thanks for sharing! I look forward to your future posts and suggestions.
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