Are Home Schooled Kids Socially Awkward? Do They Live in a Bubble?

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I am often asked if I feel that home schooled kids are “socially awkward”.  In addition, a few months ago, I received this great question from a reader, Jill:

I’m debating homeschooling. My fiance’s biggest worry is that public school, for all its downsides, allows for something homeschooling does not – ample exposure to people who may not look, think, behave, or live like you. In other words, he sees homeschooling as keeping one’s child in a bubble, away from ideas and people who have a lifestyle the parents don’t agree with.

I would love a post/discussion on how true or untrue this perception is. How do homeschooling parents teach their kids to interact with others – other kids, grown-ups, other cultures, other faiths, etc. How do you prepare your child for life in the “real world” where not everyone’s cultures/values/faith/etc. matches what goes on in their own home.

These discussions are so helpful, by the way – I’m gaining great insight!

I love Jill’s thoughts and appreciate that she shared her concern.  How wise of her to give such good consideration to parenting her kids, instead of just jumping into what sounds good at the moment.

When we first decided to home school our kids (when our oldest was beginning Kindergarten 11 years ago), many asked us, “But what about their social skills?” 

It’s a valid concern.  All parents want their kids to be able to grow up to be “normal”, productive adults who know how to handle real world, real life problems and situations.

So first, let me say this, which is my answer to the question, “Are home schooled kids socially awkward?”

I have known some home schooled kids who are socially awkward.  I have also known some public school kids who are socially awkward.  I have known some private school kids who are socially awkward.  I have known grown adults who are socially awkward.  I have had coworkers who are socially awkward.  I have gone to church with people who are socially awkward.  I have stood in line at the grocery store with people who are socially awkward.  I have had lovely conversations with people who are socially awkward.

Some people are just socially awkward.  Sometimes I am socially awkward.  Sometimes all of us are socially awkward. 

And after a while, reading the word awkward over and over again just becomes awkward.

So my point is:  home school does not create a socially awkward student or adult, any more or less than public school or private school.  That statement, in my opinion, is a fact.  (Ha, I made myself giggle when I first wrote that sentence, which I have to admit, feels a tad bit…socially awkward.)  ;)

What about the question of home schooled kids living in a bubble?  I think this is a great question that Jill asks.  Home schooling does keep a child from some experiences that they may otherwise have if they were in a school environment.  So, is this wise?  Is it providing your kids with the ability to get along in the “real world” some day?

I can’t speak for all home school families – although I do think I speak for many.  In our experience, we have found that while in some ways we are protecting them - in many ways we are actually preparing them.  Preparing them for the “real world”.  Providing experiences for them that will teach them how to deal with the elderly, the handicapped, the foreign, the younger, the older, those that look different, those that sound different, those who don’t believe in Jesus.  Our kids’ experiences just look different than they look for those who are in a schoolroom setting.

Our kids get an incredible amount of rich social interaction with all varieties of people when we go to church; when we participate in various ministries; when we invite people to our home; when they take part in many various home school and community activities and sports; when they do odd jobs for others with their dad; when they go to the bank or store or library or post office…the list is endless really.

Am I afraid my kids don’t get enough social interaction or that they live in a bubble? Absolutely not. On the contrary, I am grateful for the vast opportunities they have to develop social skills while they interact frequently with people of all varieties of ages, abilities, disabilities, and seasons in life.  And I’ve gotta say - there are days I wish my kids’ social lives would slow down just a little bit so that we could get something done at home!

The real world involves all kinds of opportunities to learn and grow that a school classroom can’t always provide.  And admittedly, the school classroom provides some cool things that we can’t provide at home.  But we’re okay with that.  No school – home, public, or private can do all and be all and provide all. 

But above all, no matter how you school your kids, the main goal should be to teach them to be servants of God.   And hey, guess what?  I’ve known home schoolers who are wonderful servants.  I’ve also known public school kids who are wonderful servants.  I’ve known private school kids who are wonderful servants…

They all have great parents.  I bet you’re one of them.  :)

I am always prayerful and careful when writing a post like this.  I would deeply appreciate it if you take the same kind of care as you leave a comment.  There will be no kid or parent bashing allowed – whether it is related to home, public, or private school.  Keep your comments kind and positive – anything less would just be downright socially awkward.  :)

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  1. Sarah says

    Thank you, Laura for posting this. I’m taking it as a “God thing” because my husband & I have really been thinking about, talking, & praying about school options. We just don’t know what the Lord is leading us to right now. Currently our kids are in public school(2nd grade & K). My husband is a high school football coach, & until this year I was also a public school teacher. We have always felt like public school was our “place.” Most of his players don’t have stable homes & godly men to look up to. We’ve always felt like our family provided something they couldn’t get at home. It’s a definite calling to be a teacher/coach & we feel like that’s his calling. I do believe as parents, one of our main roles is to protect & maintain their innocence….teach the ways of God, & the values we believe. We work very hard at this even though they are gone during the day. I do believe they are little lights in a dark world, even at their age. My main question is…what about our calling to be lights & witnesses to a lost & dying world. I feel that if I homeschooled(& I really, truly feel like it might be where God is leading us), that I would mainly “socialize” & plan activities with like-minded people. What about the opportunities to be around others that need Jesus? I know homeschooling allows for so many opportunities to serve, & please know that I’m not suggesting that homeschoolers aren’t lights in a dark world. It’s a true, sincere concern I have and one of the “hold-ups” we have to knowing if it’s God’s will for us or not. On a different note, one main reason I really consider homeschooling is simply the value of education. I feel i could do a better job at reaching my children than the public school system can. That’s why I consider this post a “God thing”….the perfect topic to help us with current concerns we have right now. Thanks!!!

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    Laura Reply:

    God wil use you wherever He leads you. You will be a light in darkness as you live your life. We have had many opportunities to be lights in our public schools. I am very thankful for those opportunities and believe God put me here for a reason. I’ve had some amazing opportunities to be an example, to influence curriculum and to encourage others as a believing mom. One of the greatest privileges I have is to cover our schools in prayer. We have an enemy and he is out to kill, steal and destroy. I would ask all believing moms to cover their local schools in prayer, whether or not they attend them. “The prayer of a righteous man availeth much,” and I believe God can reach our youth through the power of prayer.

    Keep praying, and confidently take the next step on the path you believe God has you on. God sees your heart. If you are not on the right path, He will gently correct you.

    I mostly want to encourage the moms who feel like the public school is the place for them, but are afraid. I say that “greater is He that is in you than he who is in the world.” God will watch over your children. They (and you!) will have an opportunity to be a light in darkness. God will strengthen your faith and use you. They will leave school with an incredible testimony to God’s faithfulness. Of course, this could be true wherever they are educated!

    May God bless each of you as you prayerfully consider what path God has for your child.

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    Sarah Reply:

    Thanks for your encouragement! I also feel that prayer is one thing we all need to do for all of our schools!
    I also wanted to add that when I say I feel I can do better than the system, that doesn’t mean better than their individual teachers. We have been blessed with wonderful, christian women who love our children & love the Lord. Their hands are often “tied” with all the state requirements & expectations. I just want my kids to be reached & challenged at their level. My reasoning recently, for debating homeschool, has become more about education! Once again, it goes back to prayer & letting The One who knows all, guide us in all of our decisions! Thanks again!

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    Mary Brandon Reply:

    When my granddaughter was in high school, the junior varsity girl’s soccer coach homeschooled his kids. This is not either or.

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  2. Tara says

    I am a mom of 7, of which, 4 I homeschool (the other 3 are not of school age, yet). I didn’t read every post (so what I am about to say may have been addressed already) but I still want to encourage you in your concern and decision making for your little blessings!! I read a great deal of the comments and there are many great and valid points. However, the question concerning schooling for our kids, whether it’s homeschool, private school or public school should not be answered based on decisions concerning the ability of our children to socialize, quality of education, or any other issue. Our decision should be based on what God wants from our individual family. Not what society, our friends or our family say or think. Nor should it be based on (and this is big)…what we think! Where does God want your family. Advice from Christian blogs is so useful and I certainly listen to and ponder godly counsel but our decisions should be based on prayer, prayer and prayer.

    I was completely against homeschooling when we only had one young daughter. I have degrees in science and teaching and I thought homeschoolers were crazy. However, God had different plans for our family. I felt that loving nudge He often gives when He wants me to go in a different direction so I started asking, ok, God what do you want from us. Within 1 year, I was totally convinced that it was homeschooling (our oldest daughter was 4 by this time). My husband was not convinced and I did not push it, just prayed & waited, as patiently as I could :-), for God’s timing. The first day of Kindergarten for our oldest came and we all took her to school. The teacher was wonderful, the class was 11 kids and an aid. However, as we were leaving my husband said…”We are supposed to be homeschooling.” God not only showed me what he wanted, as I waited, He totally changed my husband’s heart. I took 2 weeks to prepare Kindergarten materials and started homeschooling. I was clueless but God has ever so lovingly put many seasoned homeschoolers in my path. :-)

    I was asked an unbelievable amount of times, “what happened, why did you pull her out?” The answer was simple…nothing happened at the school, this is just what God wanted.

    I pray He will be crystal clear with the schooling (and every) decision for your family! In the meantime, you are so smart to keep reading and asking advice…God will put the people in your path He wants there to help you along!

    Romans 8:28

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    Erin Reply:

    I totally agree. I have 5 kids (one on the way) and our oldest boys went to private school for a few years but God really laid it on my and my husband’s hearts to home school our kids. Why? At the time I wasn’t sure but we wanted to be obedient to His leading. And I can say it has been such a wonderful blessing to our home. Is every family called to home school? Every child? No but I do believe we need to be continually praying for God’s will in our home, schooling choices and in everything. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  3. The Original Jill says

    Laura – I’m the Jill that asked this question of you. I so honored that you hung onto my quesition for discussion. Since I originally asked the quesition, my fiance and I have since married and are already expecting our first in June! All of the insight in the comments today are so thought provoking so thank you to everyone who responded!

    My husband and I continue to pray and research about the best method for educating our future child. Most of all, I’m thankful that we live in an urban area with plenty of educational options – and I’m more thankful that I’ve found blogs like yours that create a platform for this kind of discussion!

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    Laura Reply:

    YAY!!!!!! It has been so long since you asked your question I was afraid you’d probably given up on me by now! So glad you stuck around. And congrats on your marriage and pregnancy. SO happy for you!!

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  4. The Original Jill says

    I’m the original Jill that asked the question. I really want to thank Laura for keeping my question in mind for discussion. Since asking it, my fiance and I have gotten married and are already expecting our first in June!

    The comments in this post are so insightful and thought provoking so thank you to everyone who responded. My husband and I continue to pray about the right method for our children and I continue to do a lot of research.

    I consider us blessed to live in an urban area with lots of options for educating our chidren. And, Laura, I’m especially grateful to bloggers like you who create a platform for these kinds of discussions!

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  5. Sonja says

    I want to comment about “living in a bubble.”I am in college now and I have never attended public school. (I was homeschooled briefly, but most of my schooling took place at a private Christian school.)Admittedly I lived in somewhat of a protective bubble, but I am SO THANKFUL for it. My environment was not perfect, but I feel like I didn’t have to deal with many of the social pressures or difficult choices that many students deal with, before I was ready.
    I think an unborn baby is a good analogy. It is in its mother’s womb for protection while it matures. When it is ready to face the world, the mother goes into labor. Sometimes, though, babies are born premature and that can be a little bit more dangerous. But, either way, in the end things usually turn out fine.

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  6. Tracie says

    I can’t tell you how many times I thought that homeschooling wasn’t for me (both before and after I answered God’s call to homeschool). I was a teacher before I had my babies, and planned on sending our kids to public school. Then God laid it on our hearts to send our daughter to a private school. Not even halfway through 1st grade, we were unsettled. Our once thriving, social butterfly was changing into a sad, sad little girl. There were a few different issues that we pinpointed and worked on, but during that time, God started showing us that homeschooling our kids was something that we were capable of doing, and that we should try it. Did we think homeschooling would solve all of our problems? No. But it was the answer God was giving us. Even though I had no idea what I was getting into (at the time our kids were 6, 3, and 5 months old), but even with all of the questions, I still felt a calmness about our decision.
    In my opinion, there must be one thing that we, as Christian parents, need to caution ourselves on (and I mean this in the most respectful way…)our children are growing and learning in their faith. They mess up, make mistakes, have bad days (and so do I!). I know that I would not put the responsibility of being a light in a dark place on my young ones. Am I striving for that? Yes. Do we find ways to serve in our communities? Yes. But they are with my husband and I, so that we can teach them…we can observe, comment, correct, praise, and call their attention to things. I would not expect my children to do that on their own on a daily basis (referring to a child in a school setting). Does the world need more “light”. Yes, that’s why I am doing what I do now(with God’s help), so that someday, I can send three bright, shining lights off into this world. :)

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    Tracie Reply:

    Sorry…I realized something may not be totally clear in my comment-I believe that God calls each and every person to educate their child in a certain way-home, public, private. I just think that if we are called to send our child to a public or private school, it would be a huge responsibility for that child to be the “light in a dark place”. It’s difficult for most adults who have a strong faith!

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    Laura Reply:

    One of my children wanted to give a Bible to a friend on the last day of school. This was in kindergarten. They were a little nervous but the friend accepted the Bible. My child was so happy to have shared the Bible. I just say this because God isn’t calling Kindergartners to defend the Bible to college students. God gives each of us opportunities to share our faith with others in an appropriate way. It was a little scary for them, but I am so glad they did that! I don’t know the impact this made on the other child, but it did help mine discover that they can trust and obey God.

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    Sarah Reply:

    I understand what you’re saying. I definitely don’t expect my children to be the perfect picture of Jesus. They do make mistakes. I make mistakes! They are with others who have no guidance at home. In public schools, it’s easy for them the “do what others are doing”, & often that’s not what we’re teaching at home. I agree. That is one of my questions/concerns with sending them out….they’re not prepared. They’re little, dim lights in a dark world. BUT, more & more, they are the only light many of their classmates see. Many of my friends, who I know seek the will of God, homeschool. They want their kids to learn from them before they “let them out” in this dark world. I completely understand! I do believe, as Christians, we all (should be) “homeschooling”. When we are at home, we teach the Word of God…..daily!! We try hard to fill them with the “knowledge” to help them as they are away from us. Most importantly, we cover them in prayer, and trust God to protect them & be with them daily.
    My husband & I are not certain yet of what God’s will is for us. We are seeking Him daily!! I’m not surw that He’s not leading g us to homeschool. I know there are so many benefits to it. I just don’t want to neglect our call to spread the message. We are in a position that allows (our family) to have access to many individuals that never see The Light! It’s hard for me to let that go, even if it will be “better” for our kids. The perfect will of God is the best place to be, even if it’s not the easiest. Its different for everyone. As long as we seek Him for all of our needs, He will reveal His plan.

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    Tracie Reply:

    When our daughter was ready to start kindergarten, we believe that God called us to put her in a private school. We knew that due to her extreme sensitivity, she would not do well in a public school setting. That, along with the state of the public school that she would go to, along with the small class size and wonderful kindergarten teacher all helped with our decision. However, God was preparing us for something else. When I look at my children, I know that they (just my kiddos)would not be able to handle the pressure of a school setting. Each one is a beautiful creature that has many gifts that I fear would not be nurtured in a school setting. My husband and I make sure that our children are around all types of other people in general. Homeschooling has the flexibility that allows us to take trips to the store, bank, and other errands where my children interact with everyone (seriously, they will discuss any topic with an absolute stranger). We go to the playground after school hours, they take swim lessons with other non-homeschooled The funny thing is, all of the kids get along wonderfully with everyone-they don’t question each other and why they are schooled at home or not. They just chat about Littlest Pets and Lalaloopsy dolls!
    My point is that God leads us all to different things, I am not questioning anyone’s decision to homeschool or not-I am sorry if anyone felt that way.

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  7. karli says

    hi, i would like to add something along the “its what God wanted” line… my husband and i firmly believe that it is our responsibility as parents to “train our children up in the way they should go so that they will not depart from it” (im sure i paraphrased that, but it is in the bible:) and we feel the best way is through homeschooling. we get to put God into our childs life in such a huge way that the public schools just don’t offer… we do not have the option of private schools in our area, however, i graduated from a private school so i am aware of their benefits, as well as their weaknesses. and even if we did have a private school we would still be homeschooling…public school is not an option b/c of the horrible state of the ones in our area. anyway, that last was a little off point-sorry.
    but anyway, we don’t want someone else-that we dont even get to choose (ie the teacher)- to have such a large influence on our child. we feel that is our responsibility and our job as the parents.
    there are many more reasons i support homeschooling but most (if not all) have been addressed in other comments. i did not see this particular perspective, but if someone else threw it out there, sorry to be repetitive:)
    there is a really good book called “the how and why of homeschooling”by ray e ballmann for anyone who is wanting to delve a little deeper into a christian perspective of homeschooling.

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  8. says

    Totally agree with all of this. This is why when people flip out about our child being homeschooled and so a social misfit…well…I know it isn’t true, but I am not going to sit there and argue with someone who is misinformed. It usually does no good to try and change their preconceived notions…funny how divisive homeschooling is!

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  9. Kristina says

    What I love about home educating is that you can and your family can create the world you want for your children to flourish and grow. It is so exciting! If you want your children to meet other people and get out, go out. Walk around the city, volunteer as a family, Vacation Bible School, camps, Boy Scouts/Girl Scouts, theatre the list is endless.
    Really sometimes I wish we could be in a bubble. When we visit our downtown we see homeless folks, drunks and a variety other interesting individuals. When we attend theatre we encounter a whole new variety. I love it.
    For some though I know that their family avoids downtown because of who hangs around. I don’t blame them. But it is a choice. Home educating gives you the choice.

    So are homeschool kids awkward? If it is who they are, yes. Is it homeschool, no. I can tell you that I have three children. Two that are outgoing and socially adept anywhere. My youngest is not awkward but he can not stand being around a lot of people. What is so cool is that he has had the opportunity to enter into the social world on his time schedule. Just so you know, he has gotten much better.

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  10. Lynette says

    We have had the opportunity now to experience first hand all three kinds of schooling options: home school, private school, and public school. One thing that I think is often overlooked in the decision, which may be the most important factor of all, is “how strong is our current family structure?” Is our marriage solid and thriving? Are we consistent with discipline? Are we living our faith, talking about the Word in all kinds of situations, not just during devotions or on Sunday?

    As I have watched all kinds of families make all kinds of school choices, those factors seem to have made much more impact on the character of the children than what school choice they have made. I have seen many families who have chosen to homeschool when the family structure was not sound with disastrous results. They thought it would be the answer, but instead it exacerbated the problems that were already present. On the other hand, I have watched as godly Christian parents consistently modeled their faith and their kids have thrived in a public school setting.

    If you are walking in the Spirit, letting the Word of God dwell in you richly and your home is “in order” then you will be able to either homeschool successfully OR perhaps use public school successfully.

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  11. sage_brush says

    Anyone who is burdened with the perceived idea of “socialization” being a part of education, please do me the honor of reading this article I wrote for another blog (before we had a big religion vs. salvation blow up)

    http://fellowshipofminds.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/hints-for-home-schoolers-socialization/

    Please, please, please don’t send your precious ones into the government school system. I say this as a veteran home school mom of over 25 years. This book is a great resource, full of statistics.

    Ephesians 6:4
    And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

    http://www.amazon.com/Harsh-Truth-About-Public-Schools/dp/1891375237

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  12. Connie says

    Great article Laura! I have 14 grandchildren and 6 of them are being home schooled. The things you point out in your article are so true. My home schooled grands are exposed to all sorts of people all the time and are very active and “normal” socially. My public schooled grands are the same way.

    It depends on the parents and what,where, when, and how often they want their children exposed to outside influences.

    I think home schooling affords families many opportunities that public school does not. My grands that are home schooled are always going on field trips. Sometimes in larger groups, sometimes just as a family and they learn so many interesting things and are very interested in all sorts of things. My public schooled grands are sometimes jealous of all the field trips and leaning experiences they have. We all get together very often and the older grands (home and public schooled) look out for and teach the younger ones. They are all very compassionate and loving kids and love to help and serve others.

    You get out of life’s experiences what you put into them. This goes for schooling also. We love being a part of our grand kids learning experiences also. Great fun! God bless all of you bringing up children today to learn to love the Lord and serve and help others.

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  13. says

    this post makes me so happy! i was homeschooled as a child (pre-k through graduation day!) and my husband was a public schooler (all the way through). we both loved the decisions our parents made with careful prayer. now we are homeschooling our 2 boys after our own careful prayer.

    we have come to understand that sometimes God will direct you in one way for a time and then direct you elsewhere at another time. so while we are homeschooling these 2 little guys for pre-k/kindergarten, that may change as they get older . and we are trying to be sensitive to the Holy Spirits leading in that.

    again, thanks for this post. it makes me so happy to read your careful and thoughtful response.

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  14. says

    Why is that the only concern people have when you say that you home school your children? So frustrating. We have home schooled our children since 1998 when our oldest was 4. He is now in college and doing great. I could not have said it any better. I totally agree – they can interact with anyone. Thanks for all you do.

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  15. Violet says

    Our son and daughter in law homeschooled atheir four children and I have to say they did a fantastic job. Their kids are outstandingly well adjusted, and seem so far ahead of their peers who attend public school. The two older boys did not attend public school until college, and want to go into engineering. The two girls are still in home school high school. They all love God, are bright, respectful, kind, and enthusiastic about everything they do. Their parents provided all sorts of field trips, and unique learning opportunities. I remember early on, seeing their “history time line”. It began with creation, and wound around different halls and rooms of the house, to current day, and as they studied things, they put them where they belonged on the time line. I think for all involved, children and parents, this has been a great experience.

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  16. Kirsten says

    We have transitioned the other way this year. My son, now 15, started public school for the first time in 8th grade, after homeschooling all his life.
    The most common complaint from Jon was “but they are all 8th graders in my class” and “I only have 8th graders in all my classes.” I loved the freedom that Jon had to experience social situations from pre-school through 7th grade with mixed ages in most of his classes, field trips and experiences. He is now thriving in 8th grade and looking forward to public high school. And hoping that he’ll be in classes with different ages again.

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  17. Rach says

    I love your humor, Laura!

    I was in public school most of my life, although I did also attend a private school for a year and home school for 2 years. My younger sister was in home school from 2nd-12th grade. I have always been more socially awkward than she is. She was born being friends with everyone–except for a few who were too snobby to enjoy her friendliness. Home school gave her the opportunity to learn figure skating, piano, violin, and voice. It gave her time to go skiing with Dad and shopping with Mom.

    I think public school stifled me. I was too concerned about what the other kids thought instead of getting positive and helpful feedback and affirmation from my parents.

    Now I’ve taught in all three situations: home, public, and private schools. I’m looking at different home school curricula to use with my children in the coming years. I love home school and can’t wait to instill knowledge, wisdom, confidence, and kindness in them. =)

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  18. Bonnie says

    Hi, I’m Bonnie and I’m now in my second semester of my freshman year of highschool. I have gone to private,catholic school from kindergarten through 8th grade and I can easily say that it was the worst experienceof my life. I was bullied from 3rd-8th non stop along with constantly being pulled into the ‘drama’ that went on. Note I was never a very socially person at school,but not because I couldn’t be, it was simply because I didn’t want to get involved. I was smarter than that. After out 2nd grade our class was already split into ‘cliques’ and I of course got addressed to the loser clique because I wasn’t sial with the girls in the popular clique. Also I really didn’t have more than 3 friends until 8th grade.. then I had 1. I always got picked on for standing up for the other kids being picked on. I stood up for anyone if I felt I needed to, but it only brought me trouble. (Remember this is a catholic school) After 8th grade I’d had enough, I was being called into the principal’s office 3 times everyday over a huge issue going on with our class. Everytime I would ask what it was that I was being called in there for, they had no specific answer and danced around the subject and continued to accused me of bullying another student which I personally hadn’t talked to in about 2 months.. I was tired of it and I broke down crying in the office and explained what was really going on with this issue and they said they couldn’t help nor could they fix what was going on..at graduation everyone was given some sort of scholarship except for 3 people:a boy who was nearly expelled the day before, my bestfriend being the first African American to graduate(the town is all white and many there were racist), and of course me. Thecouldn’t give me a reason. This year I switched to a public highschool and I love it yet I’ve found that I’m somewhat socially awkward due to this past 8th grade experience at my old school. I am not saying I don’t have friends, I have lots of friends because I talk to everyone I get a chance to. I just don’t have any close friends, and I don’t really trust anybody fully. Now yes I love public school even though there are pretty bad kids there and it gets crowded at times but I am considering homeschooling next year.. I’m scared I will go back to having no friends at all because I won’t be around people all the time. My reasoning for wanting to be homeschooled is that for the past 11 months I have gone through 6 months of mono, and I have been sick now from the beginning of September th several weird symptoms and no one has diagnosed for sure what it is yet. Also I am a dancer, it is all I do. Eat sleep dance school doctors. That’s my life. Being sick makes it really hard to keep up with dance but I manage, and it effects school. I’ve missed quite a few days due to doctor’s appointments. I hate missing school because people(including teachers) accuse me off pretending just to get out of school.. as I said before, I hate missing school, there’s no reason why I would ‘pretend to be sick’ for 5 months.. I feel if I were homeschooled I wouldn’t have to worry about absences or being accused of these things. Also I would have more time to dance and even do more. What does anyone here think? Do the advantages for me outweigh what my disadvantages would be? Please reply, thanks.

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    Laura Reply:

    Sounds like home school may be a nice option for you and work very well for your schedule. Our family has loved the flexibility home schooling has provided us. What do your parents think about this option?

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  19. Charla says

    Thank you for posting this. Your words and advice are very much some of the same things I’ve said to many people in my path. I went to public school and now my husband and I have chosen to home school. It’s not for everybody but none of us really take the same path in life. Being led by God’s peace on how your children should be educated is the most important goal when considering your options. I appreciate your words and wisdom. Thanks for writing this! :)

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  20. Jay says

    Hi Bonnie

    I can empathise with how you are feeling at school as I had a similar expereince growing up. I also had health challenges and missed a lot of school when I was a teenager.

    I was homeschooled within the children’s hospital and temporarily at home. After a few weeks of homeschooling I returned to school on a part-time basis to gain confidence within a group of my peers.

    I always talked to my parents and teachers about what I felt was best for me at school. I was supported and listened to as they recognised when I needed to rest and take things at my pace after those talks. I also was given the freedom to choose which subjects I wanted to concentrate on learning.

    This happened over a period of two years as I got well. I found that relaxation was helpful in dealing with people in school. I had problems with teachers too – just be strong, talk to a trusted adult and they will support you. I constantly talked with my guidance teacher and mother when I had problems with the attitudes of teaching staff.

    I was taught meditation from my mum’s friend and I practiced it daily so I could deal with school. It helped me feel that I was in control of my thinking. I also practiced cognitive behavioural technique. I found emotional behavioural technique to be helpful also in helping me relax and have confidence in myself.

    You can find details of these techniques on the internet if you think they might help.

    I hope you find the best way of learning for you. Keep well and enjoy your dancing xx

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  21. Amy says

    Hi, I know that I am a little late (okay, a LOT late) but I just stumbled across this and I have to say THANK YOU for taking the time to write this article. My daughter is only a little over 2 and I desperately feel that homeschooling is best for my child. My husband agrees but was on the fence because of all the hype about homeschooled kids being socially awkward. My in-laws and everyone else on his side of the family are against it, but I’m standing firm… I like having a say in the quality of my child’s learning and as far as I know, there are many benefits from a child being homeschooled.

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