Many have requested that I share what life is like for our family now that our kids are older. What is our homeschool routine? How is it that as the kids got older and more independent, Mom actually got busier? What does a day in our life look like?
Today, I took pictures and notes all day long. I’ve documented our Wednesday as best I can. Why today? I chose today because I finally remembered the post request this morning and decided to started taking pictures (and you thought I was so organized). You’ll notice that most of the pictures don’t include the kids. It’s a teenage thing and I respect it. I now present to you over 20 {mostly} kidless pictures.
After all, what could be more fun than looking at a picture of our overflowing compost bucket??
First I’ll fill you in on who we are – then I’ll share the specifics of our life today:
Matt and I are self-employed. I’m a writer-blogger (hi!); Matt runs a variety of businesses from snow removal/lawn care to rental property management to handyman/construction. Every work day is different for us based on the current deadlines and to-do lists. We tag-team the needs of the kids and needs of the household.
Our boys are now 18, 15 (almost 16), 14, and 11.
Asa (18) is a college freshman, living on campus at our local Christian college and juggling a very full academic and social life. Justus (15) is a high school sophomore; Elias (14) is an eighth grader; Malachi (11) is a fifth grader. So in summary, we have one in college, one in high school, one in middle school, and one in elementary. (And I question why I can’t keep up.)
For me, today began as it usually does with a cup of coffee and my Bible. I got up later than I meant to (whatever though, I needed sleep) – so that cut into my quiet time as Matt got the boys moving for the day.
The boys are typical teenagers, which means the first thing they like to do in the morning is grab their ipods from the living room table to see what they missed while they were sleeping. Sometimes I hate ipods and want to run them over with my car (like when the boys are so zoned into them they don’t hear me telling them to load the dishwasher or that the house is on fire). But this is our culture and this is how they keep up with their people and make plans, so I try to be okay with this (while still setting boundaries). After a few minutes, ipods stayed in the living room as the boys headed to the kitchen to find breakfast.
Everyone warmed up their own leftover French toast or pancakes and grabbed applesauce and/or blueberries. Matt read to us from the book of Romans as we ate. Today we ate in a hurry because Justus and Malachi had to be at their piano lessons at 9:00.
Teeth brushed, the two boys packed their piano books along with some school work so that while one boy was having his lesson, the other boy could read or do English. In the meantime, Elias tried to sneak back onto his ipod (as I pictured it being crushed under the van tire) and then got scooted upstairs to do his English lesson. Then, since he was the only boy home, he got on the computer to do his Algebra.
I used the quiet time to start writing this post, then shopped online to order Justus’ birthday presents and made a grocery list off Pricematcherz.com.
Matt took his truck to have the tires worked on, and they finished just in time for him to pick up the boys from piano. Good thing since I was still in my jammies. ;)
Once home, Justus went straight back to the school computer to work on his music. Malachi and Elias started playing soccer in the living room. (It’s winter. I don’t own knick-knacks. THEY WERE GETTING ALONG. Carry on, boys.)
What? Don’t you have a soccer goal by your front door?
I sent Elias in to empty half the dishwasher. Malachi played the piano for a while, then I sent him off to do his reading. Elias and Malachi began working on a video project together, while still getting along. Justus was working on Geometry on the computer. I finished tweaking an article to send into our local newspaper (I write a weekly column) and suddenly needed food. It was only 11:00, but I am always hungry for lunch earlier than anyone else. (I eat an earlier breakfast, plus I’m more of a five-meals-a-day kind of eater.)
I warmed up Taco Soup (working on a recipe for you!) and got out guacamole, carrots, and clementines.
Around noon, everyone else was hungry too, so they dug in. They chose kiwi instead of clementines. While they ate, I read aloud from our latest missionary book.
Lunch over, I had to head to Walmart to get ink for my computer so I could get a printed curriculum in the mail. I grabbed some price-match items while I was there, then ran to pick up Malachi’s buddy to hang out for the afternoon. While I was out, Justus completed his Physics and did some English and History reading. Elias read English and Science. Malachi completed his math assignment.
Once I got home, Justus finished cleaning out the dishwasher, Malachi loaded it with dirty dishes, and the rest of us put groceries away.
At 1:55 Matt, Elias, Malachi, and his friend headed out the door for an indoor soccer session. On the way, they dropped Justus off at the college campus for the 2:00 MWF Psychology class he’s taking. (You can read here about how we get dual high school and college credits for our kids.) I settled in for exactly 45 minutes of quiet work time before I needed to leave to pick Justus up from his class.
Everyone was back home by 3:15. I spent a silly amount of time on the phone tracking down a package that hadn’t been delivered. The boys found snacks to eat. Elias and Justus did their Spanish lessons on the computer. Malachi hung out with his friend. I closed my office door to write this post. :)
I checked on the boys a while later and found the door to the back room closed up tight. Why?? Usually it’s open a crack, but when it’s closed like this, it usually means “I’m recording so don’t walk in until I’m done or you’ll ruin everything!”
What are the boys working on in there? Well, Justus and Elias currently have four big music/video projects they are working on with their church friends. Our church is hosting a Youth Rally coming up in February, and videos are a must; plus the boys need to complete some videos for LTC – a leadership event coming up in April. They’ve spent hours the past few weeks (some on their own and some with as many from the youth group who can help out) writing lyrics and scripts, creating beats and tunes, recording voices, videoing the action, and editing their work to put it all together. I can’t tell you how much I love them doing this.
I snuck into the room later to take a picture of what is our “recording studio”/school-computer room/Matt’s office/guest room. The boys invested in that fancy microphone you see there, and Matt and I got them the mic stand and pop filter for Christmas.
The rest of the afternoon passed with me hiding in my office trying to get some work done. I hollered out at one point for each boy to scrub four potatoes for dinner. I came out of my office around 5:00 and made a big pot of Potato Soup. I had the boys work together on sides of sweet peppers, olives, raspberries, and pickles.
We headed out the door at 6:20 for Wednesday evening Bible study. At 8:15 we were back home, joined by a young couple who is getting married this March. Matt and I visited with them (pre-marital counseling/mentoring) until around 10:15. During that time the boys were sent upstairs to fold and put away the huge laundry pile. Once they finished that, they hung out in the back room and watched netflix until 10:00 when we headed them up to bed.
Now it is 10:54 and I am wrapping this up and calling it a day. Thursdays usually require a little less running around compared to Wednesdays, though the two middle boys have basketball practice tomorrow night. Never a dull moment.
Angela says
Our older 2 are grown. Our 23 yr old son was married in December and lives in TN, 11 hours away from us. That’s hard. Our 21 yr old is in Florida with us and attends liberty university online and works at Walgreens. That leaves me with just our youngest,who is 12. He plays baseball on 2 teams so between his school and baseball that’s about it. Life is pretty calm.
Chelsea says
Do they grumble when you have them do things like potatoes and laundry? I only have little ones and no teens, but the only experience with teen boys I have was from when I dated my husband and he his brothers had a mom who did everything. I am trying to picture the look on their face if their mom asked them to peel potatoes. :-) She has 5 boys.
Laura says
They do grumble sometimes, but not often because they are so used to us asking them to do necessary chores. We started when they were little and continued to add responsibilities as they’ve gotten older, so I don’t think they even question it when we ask them to help.
Lisa says
Loved this post, and seeing a glimpse of what your day’s are like. :) I’d love to see sometime, what kind of curriculum you’re using for the boys. I noticed your math is Teaching Textbooks, which were loving here, too!! Thanks for taking time to share your day! Blessings on the rest of your school year! ;)
Kayla says
This was a great post although I was hoping my schedule would ease a bit as my girls got older but I guess that’s not going to happen :) I’m going to be ok with that thinking that they are only little once. I homeschool two girls, 6&7 along with tennis lessons, swimming and co op and feel that my head is spinning. I love how the boys help with dinner. You may be super busy but you have it down. Thanks for the post and I am looking forward to more days in life of….
Melanie says
Soccer goal in the living room?? No. But we have played much “baseball” and volleyball in ours!
Jessica says
“(It’s winter. I don’t own knick-knacks. THEY WERE GETTING ALONG. Carry on, boys.)”
This made me smile. Talk about picking your battles. :-D
Ashley says
Love you Laura! This scares me a bit as I think we are almost in that golden era you talked about with the baby almost potty trained!!! Better rest up now as the crazy like like it’s coming again! ????
Brandette W. says
Our son just turned 6 and started Kindergarten. So, our life has changed drastically from when he would just be home with me all day. I miss those days! But, we are currently weighing the option of signing him up for baseball come this spring, the first extra curricular. I have a feeling our life is only going to get busier and more complicated from here on out.
Brandette W. says
Uggh, I forgot the rest of the post. I LOVED this post from you, it was so much fun to see a Day in the Life of Laura. I really really enjoyed it. I know it was a lot more work, with pictures and keeping a detail of your day….do you think it is something you might want to do some more?
Mandy Friend says
Hey there. I am wondering how you would handle a teen no longer wanting to take part in read allude or morning time? Is it a hill to die on?
Laura says
As my older kids became teens, the heavier their school work load. Also, they became busier with ministries and earning money (and sure, time hanging out with friends!), so their time at home had to be budgeted strategically. I let them off the hook for read alouds when they simply didn’t have time to sit and listen any more. We have kept our family Bible reading time sacred, but we do it while our kids are eating breakfast so it starts their day well, without taking time out from other important needs of the day. :)