The Importance of Modesty

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What does being modest have to do with being a good help meet to your husband?  I personally think it has a lot to do with it.  What’s mine is my husband’s, and not anyone else’s …and I’m not talking about bills and laundry duty…if you know what I mean.

It pains me to see women showing too much of anything anywhere at any time.  I believe sometimes women (and girls) dress inappropriately without really knowing that they are…and I think that sometimes they know full well what they are doing and they feel like it is the MAN’S problem.  Sure, a man has the responsibility to be godly and not gawk, but FOR REAL…if you put a rich piece of fudgy chocolate in front of my face and tell me that it’s not mine so I have no business looking at it…I’m going to do my best to have a conversation with you while you’re eating the chocolate, but you’re going to make life a little bit difficult for me. 

I’m growing more and more aware of this issue as my sons get older.  How dare women and teens make my job as a parent and my son’s growing up challenges more difficult than they already are?  I’m working hard to show my sons what true femininity and godly womanhood are.  Please don’t cause my sons to struggle.  We’re trying to prepare them to be true to each of their wives some day.

I wish I was just addressing a worldly problem here.  It makes sense to me when women ”of the world” dress immodestly.  They don’t know the Truth and it makes me hurt for them.  But in all my years of being a part of the Christian community, I’ve recognized that our admonition to “dress modestly” is not very clearly defined.  It has become very clear to me that there are many different ideas about what it means to be modest.  And I see that even in the Christian community, modesty isn’t very well understood.

I run the risk of stepping on some toes with this post, which of course is not my intent.  My purpose for writing this post is to encourage all of us to think carefully about what we wear, about how it looks to others and about how it effects our marriage.  As Christian women, we should have a heart that desires to build up others and draw them closer to Christ.  If what you’re wearing doesn’t do that…throw it away.  It’s that important. 

Don’t worry, you’ll find another favorite sweater.  I promise there are cute, trendy clothes out there to be found that ARE modest.  To think that “this is just what everyone is wearing these days so I can’t really find anything else” is a big lie from Satan.  Don’t believe it.

To me, being modest means that you respect what belongs to your husband, or if you’re not married yet, you respect what belongs to your future husband.  If you’re married, there are some very appropriate (and FUN!) times to dress in skimpy, lacy, alluring clothes…so by all means…go for it…when you and your husband are alone.  God has a purpose for a man being attracted to a woman’s body, and hello married women…this is it!  Enjoy it!

But do you really want someone else to see what is your husband’s…even just a little bit?  I big fat don’t.  It sickens me to think of another man seeing or thinking about me as anything but as a Christian sister.  Why would I dress in a way that causes a man to do exactly what I don’t want him to do?

Be cute, look attractive, smile sweetly…and dress modestly.  Men everywhere (and mothers of boys!) will appreciate this so much.  And so will your husband.  The end.
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EDITED TO SAY:

Hello Friends.  In an effort to keep my Heavenly Homemakers site a friendly and loving place, I am now turning off the comments on this post.  There has been just a little bit too much chatting going on in the comments section that hasn’t been edifying and just as I wouldn’t invite that kind of talk in my living room, I don’t welcome it on my blog.  I prayed over and worked very hard to word my post in such a way that would encourage us as women to honor and respect our husbands by dressing modestly.  I didn’t tell you what to wear, I simply wanted to encourage us all that modesty is an important part of being a good help meet to our husbands.

I’m going to go with the assumption that you all mean to say what you’re saying in love, but some of the comments and arguments shared as you “talk amongst yourselves” are starting to make my head (and my heart) hurt.

We all have different opinions about what modesty is and as long as you feel like you are dressing in a way that honors God and your husband, you’re doing a great job.  Follow where you feel God is leading you on this issue and do so with a loving heart.

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  1. Mandy says

    I agree with you on the importance of modesty (as a wife to an amazing man and a mom to 2 precious boys). However, in urging other women to dress modestly, I would also urge them first to seek God’s heart (through reading the Bible and talking/listening to God through prayer). Modesty – in and of itself – is just a work. The way we dress should be an overflow of our relationship with Christ. So instead of just replacing an immodest wardrobe with a modest one, also evaluate your faith and your relationship with Jesus. Grow in your relationship, and make sure that whatever you are doing is out of overflow of love for God.

    (Laura, in no way do I think you’re preaching works here! Just want to be clear that I do agree with you, and think you’re doing a great job! I have known many people who dress a certain way to get approval from God/others. Nothing we “do” can get God’s approval. As I said, I know this isn’t what you’re saying, I just wanted to add it. Thanks for allowing us to comment on your posts, Laura. I appreciate your blog!)

  2. Katie says

    Thank you so much for your post. I teared up reading it :). It is definitely a needed thing to be addressed and I think you handled it so well!!

  3. says

    Great post! I totally agree. Also, the older girls need to remember that the little girls (like my daughters) are watching them. The big girls need to set a good example for the little ones!

  4. Danielle B says

    Well you aren’t stepping on my toes Laura lol. I do dress modestly, according to my standards, and my husband has no problems w/it. I would NEVER dress in long skirts or covered up to the neck, etc. Too restricting, and too maitronly. (ok for some but, not me) And dressing that way would not be dressing my best for my husband. I dress my best, and have lots of stylish clothes, that you will find me in. I do wear a tank under some of my tops (that need one, or if my shirt is a little too short for my jeans).

    I do think that men will lust over any woman, look at the women in the middle east covered head to toe, I’m sure there are men who love that. And long skirts…men can think of tings that way too.

    Modesty is a heart issue. It all begins w/the heart. And God lives in me and Holy Spirit can convict me on certain things. If you are wearing a certain outfit just to attract men, that is wrong. I try not to stand out… I’m not going to wear some swim dress w/leggings because a man might lust after me in a 2 piece. If you are blending in, a man won’t lust after you more than the next. We are held accountable to what is in our hearts when we put the outfit on. It’s up to the MAN whether or not he is going to lust. IF we are doing out part, and are modestly dressed (and not covered head to toe) and a man lusts, it’s not our problem.

    I don’t believe in dressing to the extreme, and covering up everything. It’s fine for the women who want to, but that’s not me.

    Hannah W. Reply:

    I had someone say something similar to me … that it is a heart issue. That is absolutely true – you can be wearing plenty of clothing and have a immodest heart and attitude, but if you have a modest heart/attitude, your clothing should be in line with that. I use this example … if you are standing in a store, wearing tight jeans and a revealing top, and a man sees you … you can cause him to struggle with lust, before he has an opportunity to find out whether you have a modest heart/attitude!

    To wear revealing clothing, and then put the blame on the men, seems so wrong to me. What is the disadvantage in covering up? I mean, if it’s only for our husband to see, why should we be revealing it to others?

    Martha Reply:

    AMEN!

    Danielle B Reply:

    Well I guess it depends on your idea of revealing clothing. Some women thinks revealing is anything not covered by a turtleneck sweater and ankle length skirt. To me a revealing clothing would be bra and underwear showing.

    Disadvantage? My husband dislikes matronly clothing… and I want to look nice for him. He wants me to feel beautiful in my clothing. Matronly clothing would not make me feel beautiful. But the total opposite. When you feel beautiful and confident you act it. And in the business world that is key. I realize not everyone here works outside the home, but I do.

    Becca Reply:

    To add to this, you can dress non-matronly and feel beautiful and confident, without showing cleavage or too much leg.

    If anyone thinks you have to show off your body in order to feel beautiful, you are being misguided by Satan’s lies. He is the great deceiver.

    You said, “If you are blending in, a man won’t lust after you more than the next.”

    Other’s immodesty does not justify your immodesty.

    I agree with you that men can still lust even if you dress modestly, and that isn’t your fault.

  5. Becca Webb says

    Thank you for your post, Laura! I wholeheartedly agree. I also think it is a great point to remember that the little girls are watching the big girls (and women.) I want to be a good example to my daughter as well as teaching my son to respect women in this way.

  6. says

    laura,

    i admire your boldness and grace in posting on this topic. i agree with everything you said here and feel that it is something that is most often not addressed, for fear of stepping on toes, you know? we owe it to our husbands and brothers in the Lord to honor them in this area.
    ~patty

  7. Diana McKenzie says

    Totally agree!! Church leaders need to teach this from the pulpit. I see way too many young girls dressing for attention.

  8. says

    BRAVO!!! What a wonderful post. It is so true. As a fellow mom of all boys it is increasingly difficult for me to go anywhere with my boys without seeing at least one immodestly dressed girl/woman. Don’t even get me started on some store displays either….you know the ones at the mall with the pic pictures of women in their undergarments?! Sigh…all I can do is teach my boys what God wants and pray…thanks for the post Laura…keep up the great work!

  9. says

    Thank you Laura for speaking the truth in love! An excellent post and very timely in our present world. Thank you! May the Lord bless your ministry abundantly!

  10. Lori says

    This really is such a big issue these days. My pastor says when he was younger when an inapropriate thot came in his mind he would sing Jesus Loves Me so as not to dwell on it. Now men would need to be singing that song all day long with the way women are dressed to temp them. Now that I am married I understand the mans mind a little more. It isn’t like they purposely notice immodesty its just the way they are wired. Yes, they are supposed to look away and not dwell on wicked thots but we don’t need to try to make it harder for them.
    My husband won’t go to the beach or the county fair and I thot is was because he was a party pooper :) but then he told me that he just can’t go and keep him mind clean. There is just too much to temp his thots there so he avoids it at all costs. That made me so proud/happy when he told me that. And now I don’t ask to go to the beach or the county fair even when I know our friends are going. I just tell them we don’t go there and thats the end of it.

  11. Nancy Nelson says

    Well said! My boys are 28 and 23 and have struggled with this issue for many years. Before he died, my husband always wondered where the fathers were of girls who dress immodestly, and, sad to say, where were the husbands of women who do the same. Anyone who truly understands how God made men and who desires in their heart to please God recognizes the importance of this issue.

  12. Ariana says

    Wonderfully written Laura – thank you! Here’s a helpful test to add: when you are fully dressed, stand in front of a mirror, bend over and while looking in the mirror see if you can see down your shirt. If you can, fix that problem!! So many seemingly modest women fail this test and they don’t even know they are giving men free shows!

    Sheila Reply:

    I agree and would like to add to it. While you are bent over, check to make sure your shirt doesn’t pull up in back to reveal skin. If it does, I guarantee you will be hanging out when you sit in a chair. Then stand up straight and reach for the sky to see if your shirt pulls up to far. Lastly, think about your day. For example… If you are going to the dentist and will be laying back in the chair, make sure your top is not going to allow to much in that reclined position.

  13. Jill says

    Thank you for your post. I’m a modest dresser by faith. I never really thought of modest dressing in this way before. A gift to my husband and a way to teach my son to stay true to his future wife.

    I would like to share that modest dressing is for ourselves as well. It’s a way to make sure we are present and confident in the now. Imagine on the red carpet famous actress lady with a strapless gown is making her way down through the paparazzi. She is constantly tugging her gown up, casually glancing down to make sure there are no wardrobe malfunctions. She seems distracted and is not smiling as much as she could be. How much is she in the now? Now imagine your wedding day, prom, first date, babtism of your child, or work this way. Back to famous actress lady…the next day there are photos of a wardrobe malfunction she didn’t catch spread across the world online, on tv, spoken about on the radio. Rumors abound about drugs and alcohol cause of the way she was speaking and acting so out of it. Is she confident? How can she be. Could you be?

    Modest dressing is a way for us to enjoy being women too.

  14. Laura says

    Thank you! As a mother of three young boys I could not have said it better. It is so important to keep their minds pure and raise them to be wonderful husbands.

  15. Gloria says

    Would it be rude of me to print this out on small cards and hand it to some women and girls I see that need to hear it? I kid. I kid. It does break my heart to see so many women and girls look for validation through immodest dress and yet I know where they are coming from. Praise God for his Grace to open blind eyes! I still get looks at the pool though. But, it is because I am the weirdo with a skirt down to my knees and a rash guard/surfing shirt. : ) As a wife and mother of one son, thanks for this bold and truthful message.

  16. ByHisHands says

    AWESOME!!!! When my husband read “Every Man’s Battle”, he read parts of it to me. It truly sickened me and I was truly sorry for many of my outfitts especially those I wore to church. This issue of modest actually drove us away from church. When tried to bring it up to the leaders, they looked down on us and dismissed it. But something is wrong when girls come to church in prom dresses!!!! My husband would sit through most of the service with his head down and avoid those “sisterly huggs and hand shakes” because of all the clevage showing.

    With a little boy due soon, this is a big issue for me but with little girls, it is an issue too. I want them to be modest and understand how that affects not only men but them selves. As young child in elementary school, I would have to go to my dad’s house. To get to the bathroom there were many pictures of naked women all over. There were even times when the tv was left on the porn channel.

    Viewing these things affected how I viewed my self as woman. Is a woman’s worth solely based upon how much clevage she has? Is she more beautiful because of her waist size?

    No. The scriptures are clear in telling what is beautiful in our Father’s eyes!

    Lastly, I remember wearing a skirt that was too short to church and sitting on the end of a second row pew. The pastor’s wife nicely gave me a lap cloth to cover my legs. If you try that now, you will get stoned and even told off! Most people rely on accept me as I am. But when does change come after they claim to believe. Our outward appearance reflects our inner esteem.

    One more thing-every woman, married or single – should read “Every Man’s Battle” and “Every Woman’s Marriage” – they both site studies that say when a man looks a woman dressed immodestly it is like giving a hit of drugs to his brain. He has to come back for more and it is big struggle for him to fight against his flesh. I could write so much on this but I encourage every woman, to watch men and their reactions to woman-you will see that there is a problem with immodesty.

  17. blair says

    I agree too! Our preacher has preached COUNTLESS lessons on modesty. He even has a power point presentation, complete with pictures of immodest clothing (on the grey stuffed torso things). And all the women who are dressed immodestly sit there and nod, but still wear their “business attire” with short skirts. My husband and I have actually changed the seats we sit in to avoid a few of the women. They will wear skirts that go mid-thigh when sitting, then cross their legs!! And while I’m at it, I’m pregnant with my first daughter, we have 2 boys ages 2 and 4, and we are (unfortunately) making them wear more clothes around the house, in preparation for a sister being in the house soon. And trying to find clothes for the baby, I have had MANY rants! I don’t want my daughters diaper showing even with a “cover” those things cover no more than underwear do! Say all u want that she’s a baby, but at what point do you say “ok time to wear more”?? Anyways, laura, thanks for this post!

    Beth @ Living Simply Reply:

    I agree with begining modesty “training” early in a girl’s life. Our daughter is almost 3 and we’ve been very careful about what clothes we dress her in. One thing that has been a great help is bloomers — I’ve had to make them so that they are bigger/longer (more like shorts) to wear under dresses. At almost 3 years old she has no concept about modesty and just wants to play but loves wearing dresses! So, bloomers are the way to go for us! She can wear dresses, still play and NOT show her diaper/undies to anyone!

  18. Rebecca says

    I am so thankful that my small country church is one where the women dress modestly. Rarely, among about 15 women, do I see any cleavage. As far as style, we all wear pants, and some even wear them to church. :)

    I, too, wonder if it is possible to lovingly confront someone on the subject of immodesty, and how to go about it. I can with my sis-in law/best friend, but we’ve know each other since we were 12.

    Can’t go to the mall? You can’t even go to Walmart (or ANYWHERE practically) without rampant immodesty!!!! I can’t begin to imagine 50 years from now…

  19. Marcy says

    Amen, I agree completely! Thank you so much for posting this & also for this wonderful blog. I really appreciate all the work & time you put into it.

  20. Sabrina says

    I agree! I’ve been noticing more and more how immodest Christian women can be, Its hard enough dealing with immodestly in the real world, but when I go to church on a Sunday morning it shouldn’t be a concern for me! Don’t get me wrong, the immodestly dressed women I’m thinking of are great, godly people, but their attire makes me comfortable because what I see on a Sunday, my husband also sees!

    I’ve been thinking about modesty more and more these days and how I can glorify god in my dressing while pleasing my husband and staying feminine.
    Thanks for your post :)

  21. judy says

    Great post! My daughter is 7 and I search long and hard every year for a one piece swimsuit… they are hard to find! And my oldest boy (12) made me so proud last summer when we were camping with friends, and he was uncomfortable with my friend wearing a bikini top… he politely let her know that he was uncomfortable with that, and she changed!

  22. Lynette says

    Thanks Laura for adressing what can be a heated topic. I appreciate your straight-forwardness and whole-heartedly agree. Many blessings!

  23. Deborah says

    Thank you Laura for this great post. I never thought about this subject too much until my pre-teenage son once told me, after attending his bible class, “you know mom, sometimes it is hard to know where to put your eyes.” I didn’t understand what he meant until I really started looking at how the young girls in his class were dressed. I wanted to tell them to stop putting so much temptation in front of my son. It is hard enough to teach appropriate behavior with all those hormones turning on and now having to be cautious at church too. I want to thank the women who teach their daughters modesty. I need to dress appropriately not only out of respect for my husband but out of respect for my sons.

    Audrey Reply:

    Wow!!! I mean, I’m just as shocked by the way women dress these days as anybody, but when I read what your preteen son said…. My jaw hit the floor!!! It absolutely baffles me that there are people out there that think it’s okay for girls that young to dress the way they do!! It makes me sick.

    I’m glad your son has a mom who sees and addresses these issues. I’m sure he will appreciate it, especially when he has a wife of his own!

    With that said, I wanted to say I loved this post. Not only do I not want other men to see what belongs to my husband, but I also don’t want my husband to see parts of other women that he should only want to see on me!! The thought of my husband looking at another woman in the same way he looks at me makes me sick…. and it makes me even more sick that some women LOVE when married men look at them that way!! UGH. This subject makes me angry. LOL.

  24. Kirstyn says

    I asked my husband what he thought modesty was (long ago, not today!) and he said that IMmodesty is anything that draws undue attention, and that can apply to behavior, attitudes and clothing, all of which he feels are important to be modest in. He holds himself to the same standard– he doesn’t like to wear “flashy” dress clothes on Sunday, our wedding was very small and quiet, etc. I like his mentality on it– it’s so much easier to go by that definition than to spend years trying to figure out how many inches of skirt is appropriate or how high a neckline has to go. If it’s modest, it doesn’t draw attention. End of story.

  25. Teresa says

    Thank you. This is a sensitive issue we deal with in our family. With 4 young boys and 2 daughters, my passion for this subject is strong. My past knew no modesty so as we seek to raise Godly children we have changed a lot of things. I am glad.
    Now I tell my daughter if a friend is over and dressed with a shirt too short or too low, she can address it first, then I’ll address it and offer another shirt.
    I will do what I can to provide good examples and keep the wordly stuff out. My oldest son,9, will bring me magazine pages or sale flyers and ask me to throw away inappropriate pages. This was a big eye opener.
    Our boys are required to wear shirts at all times and we do not allow bikinis. Sometimes you only get a chance for one impression. People stare anyway when we go out b/c of the amount of children. Our prayer is that we make a Godly impression when it’s in our power to do so.
    I read recently that when a wife is trying on an outfit, ask hubby, “Does this look hot or nice?” If he says hot, it stays at home. Just by being aware of this issue can make a big difference. I’d like to address it to my family as well. The last time my step-mother was here to see the kids she was about hanging out of her shirt.
    I have addressed this issue at the doctors office as well. A female student bent over my son to check his ears and his face ended up in her shirt. I promptly told the doctor who was in the room that I did not appreciate this and asked her to stand up and let him check his ears. He said it didn’t occur to him to think anything of it.
    We are the parents and are responsible for protecting our kids from a society full of immodesty. It will be out there and we can help them learn to look another way. We don’t have to just shove it in their faces and we look the other way.

  26. Ruth says

    A woman in our church addressed this issue as part of a ladies Bible study. To help us understand more fully, she asked several men of various ages (16 – 70) in our church to write about what type of dress causes them to have lustful thoughts in church. We were shocked by the results. Some things that were mentioned – shorts above the knee, sundresses, any hint of cleavage, any exposed skin on the back or shoulders. This is in addition to the usual low necklines, tight jeans, short skirts, etc. They talked about how they struggle to focus on God in the church service because some woman/girl in front of them decided it was warm enough to wear a sundress or some other skin revealing item. It really hit home to know that these were the thoughts and feelings of men and teens in our own congregation. I wish that all women knew and cared about how they are causing our friends and church members to struggle.
    Thank you for this post.

  27. Katie says

    Thanks Laura for saying this. I’m the mother of a almost 10 year old girl, 7 1/2 yr old boy, and then three younger kids beneath those two. My husband try to be so careful what our kids see and so we have a little system. When we see something inappropriate that we don’t want our kids to see we say “Ohio” whether it’s in the car or walking in a store, the kids know to drop their eyes and just concentrate on walking for a few minutes. When it’s passed we’ll say, “it’s done.” It has truly helped our family. Obviously we cannot stop people from wearing things that shouldn’t be seen, but we can try to help our kids choose to not look at it. I hope that we as women will choose to be good examples in our community and churches of beautiful modesty.

  28. Darcy says

    Very well said! Being a mother of 8 daughters I have been struggling with this for some time. Our daughters some times don’t understand why we won’t let them wear a piece of clothing that a grandmother, aunt or friend bought them. They see what friends are wearing to church and wonder why they can’t wear the same thing.

    It is a battle my husband and I are determined to fight though. I wasn’t raised to dress modestly and it’s hard when my girls ask questions about pictures from when my husband and I were dating or even my wedding dress, but we just explain to them that after coming closer to God, He convicted us on dressing modestly.

    I sure wish more people were concerned about what women wear and that it would be preached from the pulpit (I have yet to hear it be preached anyway).

  29. Michele M says

    Well said! You stated it boldly, but respectfully. I have felt exactly this way for a long time, and as a mother of a son and a daughter, I sometimes wish we could go back to simpler times when women didn’t even consider showing too much skin. Just wanted to tell you I appreciate the comments.

  30. Kendra says

    As “one of those that wears the long skirts” it is very interesting to me to hear other Christian women talk about this. Obviously there are different opinions leading to different denominations. That aside, here are some COMMON SENSE points to modesty. (1) Anything you give up to draw closer to God is more than worth the sacrifice. (2) Only a short 100 years ago ALL women, regardless of their faith, dressed modestly. As a result – women were treated like women! (3) If we knew the ulterior motives by the clothing designers we would refuse to support them.

    There is a wonderful series written on the subject of modesty by a woman in my faith. If I may give the information: Her website is http://www.positivepowerofholiness.com. She has several books on this subject. They are quick reads but are full of Bibilical information; not opinions. The one on fashion designers that includes their quotes will shock you.

  31. Tami says

    Yes!!
    But I am SO sad that this is even an issue… there are so many bigger issues, and this one is just – logical!

    Thank you… your blog is inspirational.

  32. Hannah says

    This is a great post. I am a former teacher and disliked seeing middle school girls wearing clothes that are designed to draw attention to the sexual aspect of their bodies.
    I do consider myself pretty modest, although if I am nursing my kiddo I don’t worry if someone might possibly see a slice of skin here or there (I do dress in layers with a nursing tank top underneath, so as to make nursing easy). I consider that anything that MIGHT show during nursing is no different than what one might see while a changing a baby’s diaper, or a diabetic lifting the bottom of their shirt a bit for an insulin shot, or what a doctor sees during a checkup, because it is not displaying my body in a sexual context or attitude. But I realize that people have different opinions on this.

    katie z. Reply:

    I agree with you, though – my baby does NOT take a blanket over the head without a violent fight, and there’s a lot more skin exposed during the struggle than if I just use a nursing tank and a shirt over the top!

    Hannah Reply:

    Yeah, mine’s not a baby anymore (almost 19 months old) so I don’t think he’d appreciate being covered.

  33. Martha says

    Great post!! Thank you, Laura, for addressing this issue! As the mother of 7 young men (and 5 girls), this is such a huge issue, especially in the church. It saddens and angers me that Christian women and young ladies continue to dress to be alluring to men.
    Thank you for your boldness!

  34. Paula Lucas says

    Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank, YOU! And thank God for all these awesome ladies who are so convicted. Qod bless you ladies and may your lights shines.

    Modesty is a discipline and we must discipline our flesh and cover it. Long skirts can be lovely and feminine. You can make a long skirt to suit any occasion and put a button up shirt under that low cut sweater and look like a lady not an old woman. Swim suits ditto, COVER UP and save sun bathing for private. My husband and sons will say thank you. My daughters and I will appluad you!

  35. says

    I completely agree with you on everything you said, but I believe that there is something more that needs to be said. Concerning young women- I find that when Christian young ladies dress immodestly the responsibility does not rest fully on them, but on their fathers. Fathers have the God-given responsibility to help their daughters understand why they need to dress modestly. And, unfortunately, in the church most do not. It is a chronic lack of leadership. For me I have two basic rules for the way I dress. 1. no cleavage at any time. Sometimes I might show some completely by accident, but I did not intend too. 2. No skirts above the knee. I find that these are good principles. It is very difficult to find modest clothing, but there is nothing wrong with buying a shirt that is originally too low, and wearing a modest-heighth camisole underneath.

  36. Marcee says

    As a mother of 4 boys I appreciate this post. It scares me sometimes what they see in the world. I also have one daughter, granted she is only 1, but I want her to respect herself just as I want my sons to respect women (and themselves as well). Thank you for this!