Have you noticed a difference in Mother’s Day vs. Father’s Day? In my experience, Mother’s Day seems to have us all focused on bowing down to mothers and spoiling them -recognizing all their hard work and amazing influence in the lives of their families. Not that I mind this too much. Yay for all mothers, everywhere. We are awesome!
Then comes Father’s Day. It seems like we somehow switch gears, letting Father’s Day become an opportunity to lecture men on how they should be better leaders and good role models.
I’m all about empowering men to lead and grow. But if all the sermons on Mother’s Day were about how I should step it up and be a better mom, I sure wouldn’t feel very honored. Not that I need accolades. That’s not my point. My point is this:
My man works hard. Most men work hard. Most men are incredibly good to their families and they all deserve to be honored just as much as the women.
Do you agree?
I’m guilty too. I’m guilty of expecting to be spoiled on Mother’s Day then barely throwing together a small token of celebration for Matt once Father’s Day rolls around. Sure, maybe this is because I cook for him almost every day of the year and do all I can to take care of him all day, every day. But this year I’m struck by how much I need to honor him for all he does for our family. Truly, what would I do without him? He is a rock star in our home, an incredibly hard worker, and I’m quite sure I don’t tell him this often enough.
While my love language is “acts of service”, my husband’s love language is “physical touch.” If I stood behind him all day, every day, giving him a scalp rub – he would not mind even a little bit (so what if there was no dinner on the table that night?). So while I’ll be making him his favorite peach cobbler and other favorite meals for Father’s Day, I’ll do my best to spoil him with physical touch so he knows without a doubt how much he means to me. If we can squeeze it in between camp sessions for the boys, we’ll probably play a family game of Settlers of Catan since I know he’ll love that too. (You can be sure though that just because it’s Father’s Day, we will not have mercy and let him win. Whatever though because he almost wins anyway.)
Perfect for Spoiling Your Husband on Father’s Day
Matt and I got the MELT Massage for Couples video series about a year and a half ago. Talk about a gift that keeps on giving – and one that is a perfect way to speak Matt’s love language. We have loved learning more about giving great massages and you better believe I’ll be using these in my efforts to spoil Matt this Father’s Day.
A nice bonus right now is that the MELT folks are giving away their Foot Massage Videos for free with each MELT purchase! Plus they have some great free printables you can cut out and hide throughout the house to give little hints as to what is to come! :)
Weirded out by the idea of watching someone give a massage just so you can learn to give a massage? Don’t be. These videos are completely appropriate and modest. We continue to reference them and learn. I’m excited that the Foot Massage option comes free with purchase this time. Great bonus!
You can check it all out here and learn the specifics. I think it’s a great Father’s Day gift because it’s a win-win for both you and your man!
What has been your Mother’s Day/Father’s Day experience? Maybe I’m the only one who has noticed a difference in how we honor men and women. How are you planning to honor the men in your life this Father’s Day?
This post is sponsored by MELT Massage for Couples.
Rachel E. says
Opposite here. This year was very upsetting because my whole family, minus my 11 year old, forgot me and ignored me. My husband never said a word . In our 21 years of marriage, I have always made it a point to spoil him.
Laura says
Aww, that’s so discouraging and I’m sorry to hear this. God bless you for loving your husband and spoiling him on his special day. You are doing right to treat him well and honor him.
Kentuckylady717 says
I agree with you Laura…..Most all the restaurants have Mothers eat free on Mothers Day,,,,but I have not seen anywhere they are offering a free lunch to the Fathers’….so not good at all………. >>>>>unchfdn anywhere
I agree with you Laura….. everywhere around here announced that Mother’s ate free on Mothers. Day…..but I didn’t see any last year for Father’s Day and so far this year either……not fair at all Restaurant owners………….
Ritaa says
Since we are “fatherless” this Father’s Day due to alcohol and all sorts of abuse and will be ever after, I told my daughters that I should get a second day! I do the work! They agreed!
Maybe there’s just a consensus that Mom’s are usually ignored in all their hard work and dads get praised all through the year (mostly by their hardworking wives!) I know this is not true in all families, and certainly not the Christian ideal, but I’ve seen it happen many times. A sad commentary.
Kristin says
My husband’s and my gifts to each other on mother’s/father’s day are always time to ourselves at home WITHOUT kids. Usually, I take the kids to my Dad’s house to spend time with him. Plus, since I am the chef, I make ice cream cake and one of my husband’s favorite meals for dinner.