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Saver or Spender? Question #69
Posted by: | CommentsI am by nature a saver. I don’t like to spend money if I can help it. I like learning about saving and investing (which is why I highly recommend this free financial newsletter for women by Daily Worth) and I like learning about keeping a nice budget (which is why I also highly recommend Craig Ford’s ebook The Secret to a Successful Budget).
As far as I can remember, I’ve always had a hard time parting with my money. I remember saving my hard earned babysitting money all summer long, then going school shopping with my mom. We always had a blast, but I do remember my mom actually getting a little frustrated with me because I was hesitant to buy a new shirt for $10. I didn’t want to spend ten of my dollars on just one shirt…I wanted to keep looking until I found a cute shirt on sale for $4! I wanted the best deal possible. I had changed many a diaper to earn that money, after all!
Being a saver is mostly and almost always good. But sometimes it causes stress because good grief…(and I know this is shocking) sometimes we need to spend money. Sometimes things break and have to be replaced. Sometimes there’s no choice but to stay in a hotel. Sometimes I must buy paper plates that get used once and then are thrown away (gasp!!).
I’ve come a long way through the years in regard to saving and spending…learning that it’s okay to spend money on good food and other things that are important. I’ve learned that giving money (and time and food and whatever) to others is an awesome and right thing to do.
I’ve even come to the point that, if I have to, I can spend $10 on a shirt. :) My mom would be so proud.
My husband is also a saver, which has helped us to avoid money arguments in our home. I’m so thankful that we are on the same page when it comes to finances. I know it is a struggle for those who aren’t.
My question for you today is…are you a spender or a saver? Is it hard for you to part with money, or does it burn a hole in your pocket?
Wedding Memories – Question #68
Posted by: | CommentsThis weekend, we are attending the wedding of a girl near and dear to our hearts. She is marrying a wonderful young man and we couldn’t be happier for both of them.
As I’ve been putting together our wedding clothes (Yikes! Do my boys have ANY nice pants without holes in them?!), my own wedding has been on my mind. Matt and I are going on 16 years (awwwww). All those wedding details were so important to me 16 years ago when I was planning my wedding and I knew I would never forget any of them.
Yeah, I forgot.
I can not remember the song playing when our grandparents walked down to the aisle. I can barely remember who was in attendance (um, if you happened to be one of the people that came, of course I remember that you were there). I can barely even remember who all was in our wedding party until I carefully look at the pictures. Good grief.
What I do remember is the look on Matt’s face as I started walking down the aisle. And how my dad could hardly perform the ceremony because he was crying too much. And how Matt and I were also crying the entire time and we only had one sorry little kleenex to share between the two of us.
I remember how beautiful my mom looked. And how beautiful her voice sounded when she sang (our family had pre-recorded many of the songs played during the ceremony).
I remember that the best man seemed to have “misplaced” my ring in an effort to freak out the bride. I’ve mostly forgiven him. ;)
I remember how happy and excited I was when we were pronounced “Mr. and Mrs. Matt Coppinger”!!!!!
I remember that our colors were navy blue and rose. I still love those colors.
So, I have a very simple question for you if you care to share: What were the colors you used in your wedding? (Or if you aren’t married yet, what are the colors you might like to use someday?) And…if you remember any other details about your wedding, we’d love to hear them!
How Much Does Your Tooth Fairy Leave? Question #67
Posted by: | CommentsWe’ve had an extra little boy staying with us off and on all summer. He’s great to have around, he fits right in with our sons, he eats whatever I put in front of him and he says “Yum, Laura – that was good”. Yes, he can stay anytime.
The other night as I was reading to the boys as they were winding down for bed (The Great Turkey Walk…ever read it? EXCELLENT book!!)…anyway…the other night while I was reading to the boys suddenly our young house guest sat straight up in bed and presented us all with his freshly lost tooth! The book was quickly set aside, Kleenexes were fetched, and the gaping hole in the mouth was proudly displayed. There was much tooth loss celebration all around.
Everyone finally settled back down and I picked the book back up again to start reading. Our house guest, however, sort of just sat there holding his tooth in his hand with a puzzled look on his face as if to say, “Um, what am I supposed to do with this now?” I’m sure if he was at his own house, he would have put it right under his pillow and laid down to dream of the soon-t0-be monetary exchange for his hard earned tooth pulling endeavors. But what’s a kid to do at someone else’s house? Would the tooth fairy even know where to find him since he was in a completely different house in a completely different town?
I stopped reading and suggested that he go ahead and put the tooth under his pillow. He shrugged, nodded and stuck it under the pillow, then lay down to listen to the book.
I continued to read, but suddenly in the back of my mind I began to contemplate what should be done. We were happy to be the tooth fairy for him…but um…when the tooth fairy comes to our house, she is incredibly, totally and absolutely stingy. A tight wad. Barely leaves a thing. Guessing that we may be the cheapest tooth fairy on the planet, I began to grow a little concerned that our friend may be less than excited in the morning when he stuck his hand under the pillow and in exchange for his tooth, he found…a quarter?! Is that IT? After he’d gone through so many years of wearing that tooth and brushing it and chewing with it and smiling with it? Seriously, a quarter?
It was too late to call his mom to ask what she would have done. Plus, I didn’t really want our kids to have any idea that the tooth fairy could actually bring more than a quarter for a lost tooth. As far as they know, the tooth fairy only owns quarters.
We have four kids, which is a total of 80 lost teeth. We’re happy to give them more money for things such as mowing a lawn, but just for losing a tooth? We (um, the tooth fairy part of we) plan to be boring and cheap and continue to always and forever leave a quarter. Our kids never complain. Money is money.
I had no need for worry. Our guest happily presented his quarter the next morning (either he was just being polite, or he was truly happy to have it). But it did cause me to wonder:
How much does the tooth fairy leave for lost teeth at your house? Are we the cheapest tooth fairy people on the planet?
Um, my kids may need to avoid talking to your kids about this subject for obvious reasons.
QUICK Question!!!!!!
Posted by: | CommentsHeya everyone, I have the blessed opportunity to talk on the phone and interview Lisa Whelchel tomorrow. She’s played a very influential role in my parenting life and I can’t wait to thank her phone to phone!
I have fifteen minutes to ask her whatever I want to ask her. I have several questions in mind, but as I will be sharing the interview with all of you in a few days I was also wondering what YOU would like to know.
If you could ask Lisa Whelchel a question, what would it be?
Leave a comment to let me know, and if I CAN (not making any promises), I’ll try to work it into the interview. :)
Cell Phones for Kids – Question #66
Posted by: | CommentsFirst of all let me say that this question is not intended to bring up any judgmental ugliness within the comments section. Not that you all tend to have judgmental ugliness within my comments section. But just in case our opinions on the matter bring out any fiesty-ness…just remember that it’s just a question and I’m just curious about the differing ideas out there.
I’m interested to know your thoughts about allowing kids to have cell phones.
My thirteen year old is pretty sure he is the only child on the face of this earth (except for his brothers of course) who still does not have his own cell phone. We haven’t given him his own phone yet because we ultimately feel like he would rarely need it, unless of course he is all the way upstairs and I am all the way downstairs and he needs to ask me where his clean t-shirts are, in which case he could just walk all the way downstairs and ask me.
In other words…are you kidding me?
I don’t even feel like I need a cell phone at this point in my life. I’m home most of the time and oh never mind…I’ve written about this already.
I know cell phones are fun for kids and sometimes, depending on your family situation and circumstances, giving your child a cell phone can be very, very useful and helpful. If it is a matter of safety and a huge time saver in tracking down your kids, I think cell phones are one of the best things ever invented. But we personally don’t think our kids need them yet.
We’ll probably look into it quite extensively when they each begin to drive. That’s when we feel like cell phones for our boys would become more of a need, rather than just a want. And then of course there is the issue of who pays the monthly fees… Ah, we’ll figure that out later.
So what works for your family? Have you decided to let your kids have a cell phone? At what age do you feel like your kids need a phone?
Grilling? Question #65
Posted by: | CommentsWe have decided that it’s probably time to get a new grill.
Matt was grilling burgers a couple of days ago and announced afterward that enough was enough. Our cheapo propane grill has seen better days. Actually, since it is such a cheapo, it really never saw any kind of great days. It’s always just been kind of mediocre. After a few years of use, there’s now just about one hot spot on the entire grill…and that’s it. Do you know how long it takes to cook burgers for nine people (we have company) on a grill that has one little hot spot?
Looks like Matt may be getting a new grill for Father’s Day. (Or whenever we find a good deal on one that will work for us.)
Anybody have good recommendations for a grill that is reasonably priced and works well?
And while we’re on the subject of grilling…what are your favorite things to throw on the grill? Steaks? Chicken? Burgers? Dogs? Kabobs?
Um, when I said Dogs…I meant the long, skinny hot kind that go on a bun…not your pets. You knew that right?
Should I Get a Juicer?
Posted by: | CommentsMy friend Valerie is traveling quite a bit this summer. I miss her already, but while she’s gone…she left a little piece of her behind for us to remember her by.
Yep, she left us her juicer. Isn’t that exciting? (Well, it’s exciting for me. I’m weird though, remember?)
For the past couple of years, we’ve tossed around the idea of investing in a juicer. Would it help us get more fruits and vegetables in our diets? Would we use it enough to get our money’s worth out of it? Do we want to deal with one more appliance in our kitchen? Is it even good for us, since drinking just the juice of the fruit has the potential to make us overdo our intake of fruit sugar?
So, with Valerie’s juicer in our home for a few weeks, we’re playing around with different yummy combinations of juices. We’re using it to help us decide whether or not we may want a juicer of our own some day.
So far, I’m having a lot of fun with it. I ordered a big 40 pound box of oranges from Azure Standard. Plus, I ordered 25 pounds of juicing carrots. Um, that’s a lot of carrots.
Here I am, making orange-carrot juice. And yes, I am just about to overflow my glass.
But check out my fascinating photography ability.
See that drop of juice just about to drip off of the spout?
It takes a lot of skill to get a shot like that. Simply amazing.
(And very, very lucky since actually I am as good at photography as I am at soccer.)
The kids weren’t big on the orange/carrot juice combo. Matt and I liked it just fine though. And, I used the leftover pulp that the juicer caught to make an orange/carrot cake. The results on the cake were so-so. I think I should have run the pulp through my blender first to make it less chunky. It’s all about experimenting. Trial and error.

The juicer we’re using is a Jack LaLanne JLPJB Power Juicer Juicing Machine. It is very reasonably priced and seems to be very high quality. So far, I’m very impressed with how easy it is to use and how easy it is to clean up. All of the parts go right into the dishwasher! Well, except for the motor. That would be a bad idea.
So, for all of you juicing kind of people out there, I’d love to hear what you have to say about this. Do you like your juicer? Do you use it often? What do you make with it? What do you do with the leftover pulp? Do your kids like it? What kind of juicer do you have?
Are You Athletic? Question #64
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We are full swing into our spring soccer season around here. I love it…but wow does it keep us hopping. Well, that would be kicking actually. You know what I mean.
I’ve been pushed out of my comfort zone just a little bit this season. Matt and I agreed to coach Elias’ team as the league is a little short on coaches. Of course this wouldn’t seem to be a big deal since my husband knows a thing or two about coaching soccer. However, Matt has had to work during several of the games. And you know what that means right? Yours Truly gets to coach. Somehow I’ve survived, and don’t tell anyone…but I’ve sort of even enjoyed it. You don’t really have to know what you’re doing. You just have to substitute the kids in and out and make sure everyone gets fair playing time. And you have to yell really loudly so that the players can hear you when you’re trying to tell them something like, “Buddy! You need to kick that out of there! No! The other way!!!“ This works not at all, because while I’m yelling as loudly as I can, they still can’t hear me. It’s fun.
Also, much like his first season of playing soccer, our youngest son Malachi still has a lot of hesitation to get out onto the field. He LOVES prepping for the game, putting on his uniform and shin guards and cleats and long socks. He talks about soccer all the way to the game, about scoring goals and about kicking the ball so hard. And then, every time his coach wants to put him into the game, the kid holds onto the bench like his bootie is glued to it and no-way-no-how are you going to make him go onto the field and play his favorite game.
Sigh.
And so, just like last year…during his games I’m out on the soccer field with my nervous five year old. Together, we follow the ball around as I try to get him used to being on the field with other four and five year olds.
I am utterly relieved and excited to say that we finally had a break-through Thursday night. Slowly but surely, Malachi got into the swing of things and started moving on his own. And slowly but surely…I backed away until I was off the field letting him play all by himself. Hallelujah!
I’ve gotta say though that the more I’ve been on the field with him, the more I’ve realized how fun it would be to play the game of soccer. It was all I could do to keep from kicking the ball when it came to me (instead of hurrying to get out of the way before I tripped an eager four year old). Seriously. At one point the other day I almost forgot myself, and the fact that I was really just out there to encourage Malachi. All I could think of was, “Dude. I could totally take these punks.” Ooh, but I remembered who I was and where I was just in time to step out of the way and let the little guys get the ball. But not before I actually tripped a small boy on the other team and made him roll over in the grass. Good one, Laura.
Which leads me to my question today. How athletic are you? Are you the kind of person who is natural with any kind of ball (or at least with some kinds of them)? Can you run without tripping (yourself or someone else)? When you hit a ball or throw a ball or shoot a ball…does it actually go where you want it to go?
Or are you maybe a little bit like me? Try as I might, athletic activities just don’t come very easy for me. It’s not natural for me. Balls don’t go where I want them to go. Ever.
It’s okay. I’ve come to terms with it.
But it did feel good, if only for a moment, to know that I could have been able to run faster and kick the ball harder than the little kids on the field with my five year old son.
Little punks.
Coke, Pop or Soda? Question #63
Posted by: | CommentsYou knew the Coke/Pop/Soda question was coming after this question, didn’t you?
We all know that I don’t drink Pepsi anymore. I’ve been Pepsi free for over four years now. However, I still miss my Pepsi so if you’d all kindly whisper while we talk about this subject, I’d appreciate it. Otherwise this will be a difficult topic and I may be faced with temptation.
Just kidding. I’ll be fine. I won’t give in. I won’t have any. Not even a sip.
However, if you and I are together and you are drinking a Pepsi, I may ask you for a sniff. My sister-in-law always lets me smell her Pepsi when we’re together. She just smiles, shrugs and hands it over…because what else is she supposed to do? She married my brother so she has to love me through my weird Pepsi addicted ways. Ah, everyone should be so blessed as to have a sister-in-law who lets you smell her Pepsi. Michele, I love ya. I can’t wait to smell your Pepsi sit down for a long visit next month!
So, growing up, I always called sugar filled carbonated beverages ‘pop’. When I went to college, I learned that people from different regions call it different names…names that I (in my immaturity) thought were just plain weird. I thought people only called it ’soda’ in old movies. Lo and behold, real live people called it ’soda’ and they weren’t even kidding. And then there were the people that called it ‘Coke’ even if it was a Dr. Pepper or a Sprite…or of all scandalous things…a Pepsi. How dare these people call my beloved Pepsi…a Coke?
Yeah, I’m over it now. In fact, I even started calling it ’soda’ after a while because everyone around me said it that way. (Although, as a side note, I do get a bit testy when I hear people call ‘margarine’…’butter’. If it’s margarine, it ain’t buttuh. “Don’t you mess with butter’s good name like that,” I scream! In my head. While I smile.)
Well, anyway…I do believe this Coke/Pop/Soda thing is regional. It seems that folks from different parts of the world call it different things. Oh boy, and I even met someone last summer that calls it ‘Soda Pop’. I thought Opie was the only one who called it that…but it sure was cute coming out of the six foot three inch fella I heard it from last summer.
So what do you call it? Have you found it to be different it different areas of the world?
Dinner or Supper – Question #62
Posted by: | CommentsWhat happens when you tell your dad that you’ll be traveling home for a visit and will be there in time for dinner?
Well, in my case…he would expect my family to show up around noon. But in reality, we wouldn’t show up until 6ish. Oops.
This has certainly been a problem before. I have learned to be very specific about what I mean when I say ”dinner” to my dad who lives in Kansas.
I grew up calling the noon meal dinner and the evening meal supper. When I got married and moved to Nebraska, it seemed that most people called the noon meal lunch and the evening meal dinner. Therefore I defied the loving teaching I had been raised with my entire first 21 years of life and converted to become an evening time dinner eater. Why, I haven’t eaten supper in years. Oh, except for the last time I went to Kansas. I suppose then I had supper several nights in a row.
Maybe it’s a family thing. Maybe it’s regional. But what I want to know today is…
When do you eat dinner? Lunchtime or evening time? Ever showed up to someone’s house for dinner at the wrong part of the day?!












